Being Happy MIGHT Equal Being Alone

As I write this it is about 10 o'clock, the kids are in bed, dishwasher set to run over night and the last load of dirty laundry spinning away in the dryer.  And now I get to do what I love.  Write. This is my ME time.

We lead busy lives and have all sorts of obligations as parents, professionals, and friends. It’s easy to lose yourself in everything that has to be done in any given week. While it’s great to give and spend lots of time with loved ones, there is a time and place when you should slow down and get a little selfish.

Sometimes you need to treat yourself and spend a little “me” time. Don’t feel guilty about it. In the end, it will make you a better parent, a better colleague, and a better friend. We all need to recharge and we need to do something just for ourselves on a regular basis and it doesn’t have to be complicated.

If taking time for yourself to do something that you enjoy and that relaxes you isn’t something you’re doing right now, figure out what you may want to do. Stop now and think of 5 things you want to do just because. Maybe it’s reading a good book or watching your favorite TV show. Maybe it’s getting back into a hobby you used to enjoy. Maybe it’s taking a nap. Maybe it’s a simple as having 10 minutes to sit by yourself and think, or thumb through a magazine. I've also been known to get up before everyone else just to enjoy the quiet calm before the storm of the morning. Planning for those moments and savoring them does wonders for my mood.

Self-care is part of me time as well.  Treating yourself to a new haircut, that physical exam you've been putting off or spending time working out at the gym can also be great options. Or keep it super simple, and pick up a favorite treat that you don’t have to share while you’re out doing the grocery shopping.

The point I’m trying to make is that it’s ok to treat yourself and do something for the sole purpose of making you happy. While a piece of fancy chocolate may not seem like that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things, treating yourself well, and caring for yourself can have a huge impact on the rest of your day and how you treat those around you. Give it a try. Do something nice for yourself and watch your happiness levels go up.