Soft Girl Living
There’s a quiet revolution happening. Not the loud, leave-your-job-and-move-to-Bali kind. But the gentle kind—the kind that whispers what if there’s another way? The kind that trades burnout for boundaries and hustle for healing. For therapists and coaches especially, living the “soft life” isn’t a cute aesthetic. It’s a survival skill.
We carry a lot. Other people’s pain. Paperwork. Expectations. Pressure to keep it all together while quietly crumbling inside. But here’s the truth: constantly giving without receiving—even from yourself—is a fast track to resentment and exhaustion.
The “soft life” is not about giving up your drive or passion. It’s about grounding yourself in pleasure, presence, and peace—every day, in small ways. While the season of life that you are in may not lend itself easily to softness, the goal is to find a softer experience in whatever season you’re in.
Need a little inspiration? Check out a few ideas to get your juices flowing.
💧 The Fancy Glass Rule
Start with water. That’s it. Pour it in the prettiest glass you own. Add frozen berries or mint. Use a glass straw. Suddenly, you’re not just hydrating—you’re honoring. You’re saying, I deserve delight—even in the ordinary.
🕯 Candle Energy Only
Burn the good candle on a Tuesday morning. No occasion needed. Your workspace, your living room, your bathroom—all of it deserves ambiance. Let your nervous system breathe in peace, not productivity.
🍽 Romanticize the Plate
No more bites over the sink. No more half-eaten dinners in the car. Sit down. Plate the food. Add music. Make lunch feel like a love note to yourself. Your body and your spirit will thank you.
🤫 15 Minutes of Silence
No music. No scrolling. Just breath and awareness. Let your thoughts catch up. Let your soul exhale. For therapists and coaches who are always “on,” this is where clarity finds you.
💎 Stop waiting for special occasions
That perfume? Spray it. That silky robe? Wear it to binge Netflix. That expensive tea you’ve been saving? Brew it. If you’re waiting for life to slow down before you enjoy it, you’ll miss the very moments that make life beautiful.
This isn’t about extravagance. It’s about intention.
The soft life invites you to treat yourself the way you treat your most cherished clients—with gentleness, encouragement, and presence. Because you matter too. And when you show up from a nourished place, your work becomes deeper, more sustainable, and far more joyful.
Softness isn’t weakness. It’s strategy.
🧘🏽♀️ Want to start your soft life today?
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